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FOR MEN -
1) Getting started - madam Palm and her five lovely daughters
Most people learn pretty early on that their hand is the perfect friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and an enormous amount of fun.
Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:
- Switch on a movie.
- Grip penis gently but firmly in your stronger hand.
- Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
- Ejaculate into a tissue.
- Return to the paused video game.
This is, of course, one of the oldest and most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind. The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. However, with a little creativity and variety, you can take it to a whole new level as you’ll soon see.
2) Madam Palm's twin sister.
Even at this basic level you can still spice things up nicely by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:
- Try using just your other hand once in a while.
- Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try holding your penis in-between both palms pressed together.
- You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
- Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!
3) Don't leave your balls hanging.
Your balls are more than just an odd-shaped storage facility. They’re an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.
It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:
- Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
- Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
- Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.
There’s another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.
4) It's not just women that have multiple erogenous zones.
Even though the majority of masturbation techniques are centered on the penis and balls, there are other parts of your body that respond well to a little attention.
It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think.
For example, try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.
Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you’re sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.
Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.
5) Moving South : The Perineum
The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand. Again, be creative and see what kind of stimulation, if any, gets you going.
6) The Holy Grail of the male G-Spot
Some cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.
But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.
For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the greatest ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others, it’s strictly a one-way street.
If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:
- Thoroughly wash both your anus and fingers before starting.
- Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
- Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
- Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
- Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
- You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
- The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.
Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.
7) Experiment with different positions
If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.
And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men. Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:
- Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
- Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.
- Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swapping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
- And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.
Part C: toys and accessories to enhance the experience.
8) The best way to masturbate is with a realistic vagina
I shouldn’t need to point out the obvious difference between your hand and a real vagina.
As I said earlier, masturbation isn’t just about personal pleasure. It’s also an investment in your ability to maximize both you and your partner’s pleasure during sex.
That’s why simulating sex as closely as possible is an excellent way to prepare yourself for the real deal. It’s also way more fun and intense than just using your hand.
9) The slippery joy of lubricants
For the same reasons that you would use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.
Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.
A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience. Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.
Please note that depending on your age, you might not be able to get hold of a realistic vagina or sex lubricant. In which case, don’t stress about it. Yes, they’re a lot of fun, but no, they aren’t absolutely necessary.
10) The double-edge sword of online movies
Movies can be great if used the right way, but they can also be damaging if used without any thought.
As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation can be a killer of your future sexual performance. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.
If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you’re unfortunately training yourself to be a future ‘one minute man’.
However, if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, then it’s a great way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.
FOR WOMEN -
1. The Pattie Cake
Using your pointer and middle finger, gently pat your clitoris varying pressure and speed until your little boat is standing in attention.
Listening to sexy or romantic music can enhance your mood and you can pat your clitoris to off and on to the groove of the music. Done to perfection, your inner labia and clitoris will become both sticky sweet and warm. When the insides of your vagina are covered with your love fluid, use this as lubricant.
Resist the temptation of starting to just “rub one out.” Keep patting and/or using short strokes. The anticipation will build with pressure behind your coming orgasm. As you are getting closer to coming, push your fingers inside you, then pulling out rubbing your love fluids onto your clitoris. Continue patting and pulling your juices on to your clitoris. The key is the anticipation of not rushing ahead. Just keep patting with some rubbing motion until you can’t hold back anymore. As you start to orgasm, then rub as it feels best all over you clitoris enjoying a well deserved orgasm!
2. The Sandwich Cookie
This technique is much like delicious cookies sandwiching a cream filling. Your index and middle fingers serve as the delicious cookies here. Place your fingers on the outside and supporting both sides of your clitoris. While gently gripping your clitoris with your fingers, use the fingers of your other hand to stroke the clitoris while varying the pressure and speed, but not too fast. You can also slide your “sandwich” fingers up and down on the sides of your clitoris too.
Note: Maintain this action trying not to slip into your basic pattern of masturbation to orgasm or as you orgasm. This will help increase your “repertoire” of delightful ways to achieve orgasm.
As you come, work your two fingers in harmony with the rubbing of your clitoris. It will be sweeter than any Sandwich Cookie!
3. The Open-Faced Sandwich
This technique involves gently patting and pushing down on you whole vaginal area using the palm of your outstretched hand. It is quite a variation on direct stimulation methods as the stimulation is much broader focused. Keep your hand open and fingers outstretched. Long and varied strokes are best at first.
You will find yourself twisting and turning your hand to focus on your clitoris. This is ok, but keep the fingers out of it. Continuing with this rhythm will produce a hot sensation. As you come push your palm into your clitoris and rub it back and forth where your palm and wrist meet. This orgasm can feel different because with your fingers outstretched, it will feel more submissive which can intensify your orgasm!
4. The Pulsing Pelvis
This technique actually simulates having sex so it can be very erotic. Lay on your bed, back down with your legs spread, knees up and feet flat on the bed. Use your middle finger to penetrate your vagina much like a penis. A sexy and considerate man would first rub his member around you so that entry was smooth and slick. You should have the same consideration for yourself too! Don’t just plunge your fingers in, be gentle and work for it! You can even pull away like you are teasing your man before he enters you.
As your finger enters, softly but seductively contract your leg muscles such that your pelvis gently pulses in a rhythm similar to when making love with a partner. The emphasis is on your pelvic push as opposed to finger action. Push into your hand and finger. If you want to fantasize about being laid by prince charming, go for it! Keep it going with your pelvis thrusting harder and harder until you come. This technique will make you a better lover too. Be forewarned that you will drive your man crazy with this technique, but also likely bring up questions about where you learned to do this? And if you have been seeing another guy? One last note: Before sex you’ll lover won’t need to remove his socks, you’ll rock them off for him!
Water Works
There are more reasons for taking a bath everyday than staying clean.
5. In the Pool
Rated highly among the masturbation techniques for women, here you open your legs as wide as possible while positioning yourself in front of one of the many jets available in your hot tub or pool. Experiment with the various spray patterns and/or oscillations. Don’t start out too close! With your legs spread, stand far enough away that the jet is not uncomfortable for you at all. Begin moving closer and closer towards the jet until the stimulation is enough to jet you into organism!
6. With Your Shower Head
A common masturbation technique for women, but it needs to be done properly to get that mind-blowing organism. Using your handheld shower head to please yourself, take it off the hook and press it on your clitoris, rub softly then firmly. You can alternate between the two extremes or just find a middle ground which offers you the right sensation. You can synchronize your rubbing motions to match your masturbation experience. All in all, you are bound to have an incredible experience.
7. In the bathtub
First, fill the tub with enough hot water that it is not cold to lay in. Keep the facet running at a slow run. Add in your favorite bath beads or fragrance soak.
Ease into the in the tub and start sprinkling water on various parts of your body. The water will feel warm on your skin at first, then cool down. This will start the nerve sensations flowing through your body. Keep dripping water all over your body feeling very sexy as you drip water between your legs.
When the time feels right, slide down towards the slow running facet with your legs spread. Let the water splash around your clitoris. Slide you backside so that the water hits various spots of your vagina. Rub your thighs with your hands and position your clitoris under the water for the best feeling. Use your body movement with the water to stimulate your clitoris. If you can avoid manual stimulation, your orgasm will be incredible!
Adult Toys
The selection of sex toys is almost endless, however you can also use house hold items as well.
8. Dig the Shovel
This can give you an option on your type of orgasm – clitoral or “G-Spot”.
After you have initiated masturbation and you are naturally lubricated or have applied lubricant. Use a vibrator or dildo inserted in your vagina with a “digging up” motion pull the end of it into the “G-Spot” and continue sliding all the way out and slowly over your clitoris.
Don’t give up on the “G-Spot” because it can be an incredibly intense orgasm. Keep seductively going thru the digging motion until one area is unavoidable. concentrate there and dig in until you hit pay dirt!
9. Electric
An electric toothbrush will not only keep that bright smile pretty, it can keep it there! An electric toothbrush can easily be used as a unique vibrator. Just use an extra toothbrush tip for the fun work.
An electric toothbrush vibrates at a much higher rate than most vibrators so the sensation is much different. The head of the toothbrush is much smaller and about the size of the average clitoris – what could be better? You can cut the brushes off to keep from getting too roughed up. Cremes and lotions work great on the end of it.
Focus the toothbrush all around your clitoris doing what feels the best. It won’t be long until you are showing those pearly whites with one big orgasmic smile!!!
A side benefit of using your electric toothbrush as a vibrator goes beyond the incredible orgasm. It is always handy and you won’t have to worry about leaving it out (stash the toothbrush end though) or traveling with it wondering what customs will say about it?
10. A Play Station
If the game gets a little boring you can always spruce it with a self-induced orgasm. You’re sure to win! All you really need is a game that makes the controller vibrate. Configure the best way for the controller to stimulate your clitoris. Once the game starts, the challenge is getting the controller to vibrate. This is the element that makes the orgasm more intense – you don’t have 100% control. Therefore, the excitement builds as it vibrates at the right time while knowing it could stop. Game on!
